If I am not posting blog posts frequently, it is because I am distracted with life happenings. There is so much I want to share, and having today to have the time to focus on what has occurred to date and is summarized in one word: transition. When I coach others, I always work on getting to the root of what they want out of life, their team, their career, their finances, their health, and once that end goal/vision is clear, I coach them through the actions to get there. That is a transitional period. It is where you teeter between comfort zone and shear panic for the changes that are about to occur that stretch you a little to get to your end goal. I am so fortunate to have this view into someones transformation, and even more an opportunity to have impact on their path to self discovery.
I don’t manage my life any different than the way I coach others. Doing it in a relationship/marriage requires even more skill to push through a transitional period, and ensure all parties are alright in the end. Everyone moves at their own pace, but when you focus on the end goal, the truth about the skills you have to get your there, and articulate what is going on every step of the way, the end result is AMAZING! If nothing else, you have discovered more about yourself through this transition.
My husband and I kicked off our transitional plan at the end of April moving into May. We had created a vision of what we wanted our life to be going forward, and identified the items we wanted to let go to not only have individual contentment, but also fulfillment in our partnership together. We set our intention. We both experience a little anxiety about the change that would occur, but we agreed to stay open, and communicate when it doesn’t feel quite right. That is what we kept encouraging each other to be, OPEN. I have found with each major shift in my past that has gotten me to where I am today, I had to be open. I had to trust in myself and the end result. And most of all, I had to have faith that whatever happened, I had the skills to handle it, and if I didn’t, I would ask for help. In this transition, I am moving forward with a life partner. Someone who has supported me individually and also shows up in our life together to help us move forward together. WHAT A GIFT!!
Having a bit more experience in cross country moves and starting over (this will be the 9th time), I would say I am a bit more grounded in this area of transition and exploration than my husband. Although this will be the first time I drive across the country! This is me stretching myself and trying not to panic (I don’t do well on long drives, if you have audio book suggestions, please send them!) I am so proud of how my husband has pushed himself past his fears and is leading our way the way to the next chapter in our lives together. It is not easy to let go of what you know, and be open to what is next. I am so freaking proud of him! The beauty of transition is that it allows you to reinvent yourself. Especially when you move to a new place, no one knows you yet. How awesome is that! You can pick all the good parts about yourself and just shine! Or you can explore and discover the next version of yourself that you always wanted to try on. Living here in NY tri-state area, I had to reinvent myself a few times over the last 6 years. Every time I came across a new situation, I learned from it, learned more about myself, and chose the pieces I wanted to take with me to the next phase. I met some amazing people that I know will continue to have influence in my life and I in theirs. I build a stronger foundation in myself and what I have to offer the world. It has been an amazing ride. Transitioning to Colorado, my hope is to continue to focus on building a family, continuing to impact other peoples lives, create a space people want to visit and share in, and create a financially free life that allows us to choose how we want to spend our life together. The past month has been about purging and planning for the transition. The months ahead is going to be about exploring and stretching ourselves out of our comfort zone to build a new foundation as individuals, and together. I will continue to check in with myself and follow through on my own words: “I reserve the right to change my mind, at any time.” My husband has reserved his right too.
I will be sharing parts of our transitional period, as we move across the country. I am still only a phone call, email, or text away. I will be posting pics on facebook and instagram during our drive across the country. Feel free to follow me there!
Let the adventure begin!!
If you have a transition story that you would like to share, I would love to hear it! Please feel free to post a comment here or send me a message.